Adult Children of Divorce

Romantic love is often an elusive fragile and tenuous state difficult to maintain across time. The rates of divorce re-divorce relationship violence and abuse today attest to the face we are failing at romantic love. And for teen-aged and adult children of divorce romantic love can be especially elusive. Because they have no roadmap for a satisfying stable romatic relationship derived from their own parents they are confused by what love is and tend to make poor partner choices. Borrowing heavily from popular culture for unrealistic standards regarding love they become disillusioned when their all-too-ordinary lovers don''t measure up. Especially vulnerable to the problems their parents had they tend to overreact in a similar negative fashion and are all too ready to consider divorce when unhappiness strikes. In attempting to halt intergenerational transmission of divorce Psychologist Piorkowski points to how we can recognize that American popular culture presents an overly-sexualized explosive and superficial version of love that can''t last. With this book adult children of divorce can begin to see how they have been affected by familial experiences and develop a new realistic map to find more fulfilling and enduring romantic relastionships.Piorkowski in an extensive review of literature also looks at cultural factors and how they impact romantic love and marriage. In contrast to American popular culture''s shallow rendition of romantic love many cultures elsewhere in the world emphasize compatibility religion and family allegiance. As a result says the author such marriages appear more stable than American unions built upon the shifting sands of emotion.