Boundaries / सीमाएँ : Be Aware

“But what if I change my mind?” Carla asked. “I’m scaredthat I’ll set a boundary with my best friend and then she’ll leaveand forget about me.”It’s important to understand that your no is always subject toyou. You own your boundaries. They don’t own you. If you setlimits with someone and she responds maturely and lovinglyyou can renegotiate the boundary. In addition you can changethe boundary if you are in a safer place.Changing and renegotiating boundaries has many biblicalprecedents: God chose not to destroy Nineveh for examplewhen the city repented (Jonah 3:10). In addition Paul rejectedJohn Mark for a mission trip because the younger man haddeserted Paul (Acts 15:37–39). Yet years later Paul requestedJohn Mark’s companionship (2 Tim. 4:11). The timing was ripeto change his boundary.As you’ve probably noticed some of these myths are genuinemisconceptions you may have learned from distorted teachings.Yet others simply result from the fear of standing up and sayingno to unbiblical responsibility. Prayerfully review which mythshave entangled and ensnared you. Search the Scripture mentioned in this chapter. And ask God to give you a sense of confidence that he believes in good boundaries more than you do.