Character Landmarks

It has become a norm to certain folks or families to live and lead their lives based on the current value made available projected presented and protected while they are growing up within such families – this is normal (you might say).. However what about a situation where one happens to be at a forefront of a group say a family and you find yourself in a position where you happen to be the eldest – not because you were actually the eldest by biological chronology rather it so happened that you suddenly find yourself in unprepared leadership position on the account of losing those before you to unavoidable death – through sicknesses diseases crisis etc.. Now that you’re edged in - into the leadership position at the steering control point what do you do?