Come Home to Yourself

Written in a beautiful simple and conversational style Sadhviji covers the most pertinent issues affecting all of us-how to discover inner peace find love let go of anger know your purpose and connect with God regardless of your religion. Born and educated in the US Sadhviji has a PhD in psychology. She came to India approximately twenty-five years ago and has since lived at the Parmarth Niketan Ashram in Rishikesh on the banks of the Ganga. This book emerged from the satsangs held each evening after the sacred Ganga aarti at the Ashram and will resonate deeply with everyone whether you are old or young rich or poor religious or not traditional or modern. It will touch you deeply awaken your spirituality and connect you to your true self allowing you to become the best version you can be.Why do I think so negatively? How can I break out of negative patterns?Negative thinking is a tragic pattern that many of us fall prey to. Sadly we do it because we've been programmed to do it. One part of it stems from our basic culture of education and discipline which is a system based on punishments rather than rewards. The children who do well and behave are ignored and the kids who cause problems are the ones who get all the attention. We constantly hear 'You're stupid you're bad you're this you're that' and we internalize it.The other part of it comes from the rest of the culture-media politics etc.-that is rooted in and founded upon convincing us that we are lacking something in our lives that they are going to fulfil. This is called marketing. If you already have everything how am I going to sell you something? If you're already satisfied you're not a very good customer especially if what I'm selling is not something you need. I need you to feel that there is something missing in you which my product is going to solve. Either you are too dark or too fair your hair is too straight or too curly you're too fat or too thin you're wearing last year's model of jeans. This is how advertising works...I feel anxiety in many situations. Is anxiety a bad thing?First of all it's important to remember that nothing we experience is bad. The only bad thing is thinking that what we feel is wrong because then we end up separating ourselves from ourselves. We want to be good we want to think and act in good ways so the minute we label something inside of us as 'bad' we've cut ourselves off from it.So when we examine anxiety it is not 'bad' per se. However what does it do? It makes our heart race. When we feel stressed and anxious our heart rate rushes our blood pressure goes up all of our energy literally rushes to the extremities. It's our fight-or-flight response. We are biologically primed and ready in that moment to either fight or flee.That response would be very useful if we were living in a cave and had to protect ourselves from tigers or bears or warring tribes but it's not very helpful in the world we live in. We need that rush of adrenaline to be able to outrun a threat or to climb a tree. But we cannot live in a state of openness and expansion while simultaneously running or fighting. Either the world is something to be afraid of or the world is something to be one with but it can't be both.Every minute that we feel anxiety what our body is telling us on a physiological level is that this situation is dangerous. And that's not a healthy way to live. The question then becomes-how do we stop feeling anxious?Every time you feel anxious ask yourself Is this really a situation where I want to separate myself from the world? And if not then ask yourself how you can expand the way you think of yourself. Ground yourself in your breath. Try to experience a state of oneness with the people around you rather than a sense of separation because where there's oneness there's no fear. Where there's fear you feel separation. Anxiety takes us away from the truth of who we ar