Core Value Therapy (1)

Core value therapy started with a client of mine in early 2007. The client came for anger management and kept mentioning people kept pressing their button. I made a circle on the white board and said we are going to find this button. This began a conversation about what bothered them about other peoples actions towards them. What was revealed was a value word. I observed in clients that their particular value was influencing their anger. For example clients would say I dont like it when other people disrespect me and dont accept what have to say. This may not sound like some amazing revelation as we can all relate to hearing clients say these sorts of things. The critical discovery I have made with statements like this is clients do not actually hear the majority of these value words. For example in the above statement the value words respect and acceptance. Assisting clients to discover connect with and take charge of their value words is now known as Core Value Therapy. Key aspects of Core Value Therapy One key aspect of Core Value Therapy is listening for value words in stories which have made clients feel strong feelings mainly feelings such as anger becoming annoyed or offended. These stories are embedded with values. These values influence a clients behaviour thoughts and emotions. Once a client discovers their core value they improve remarkably well in their emotional regulation when applying the core value to themselves in situations distressing to them. It is very much like the core value is the centre of the problem and then becomes the answer to that problem. In this way it tends to shift the locus of control from the other person back to themselves. Another key aspect of Core Value Therapy is the acknowledge ment that clients do not hear themselves say their core value words despite saying them very frequently. Clients core values are hidden from their conscious mind. Therefore they are operating from an unconscious state. Many clients have told me they do not know why they get angry and cant make sense of it. The moment the value is revealed it makes sense to them what is going on and they begin to see the world completely differently through a different lens. When clients apply their value correctly to themselves and to others they report increase in self-esteem improvement in relation ships and stabilisation of emotion regulation. This approach is explained in more detail in the Clinician Techniques for Core Value Therapy section. For most practitioners when we hear the clients stories on a daily basis we get engrossed in the circumstances and details of that story want to know what is going on focus on their feelings and focus on solutions. All this is good and worthwhile while we often miss the main point. The main point is found in what types of value words the client uses to tell their story. It represents the meaning of the story to them. Over ten years practising Core Value Therapy I have observed clients use countless different value words. I do not interpret that value word change it or put my own spin on it. Most practitioners who attend Core Value Therapy training state they have to learn to listen differently to their clients from now on and will need to expand their vocabulary on what constitutes a core value word.