How Can I Forgive You?

<p><strong>If you are struggling with issues of betrayal--or the challenge of whether and how to forgive--here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.--Harriet Lerner Ph.D. author of <em>The Dance of Anger</em></strong></p><p><strong>Everyone is struggling to forgive someone: an unfaithful partner an alcoholic parent an ungrateful child a terrorist. This award-winning book provides a radical way for hurt parties to heal themselves--without forgiving as well as a way for offenders to earn genuine forgiveness.</strong></p><p><strong>Until now we've been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring a gifted clinical psychologist and award-winning author of </strong><em>After the Affair </em> proposes a radical life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives--without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for earning genuine forgiveness--one that asks as much of the offender as it does of the hurt party.</p><p>Beautifully written and filled with insight practical advice and poignant case studies this bold and healing book offers step-by-step concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and ourselves while answering such crucial questions as these: </p><ul>How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?</li>When is forgiveness cheap?</li>Can I heal myself - without forgiving?</li>How can the offender earn forgiveness?</li>What makes for a good apology?</li>How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?</li></ul><br/>