Knowing If It's the Real Thing

In this exciting and original work Gerald Alper illuminates the crucial elements that together constitute intimacy. <I>Knowing If It's the Real Thing</I> offers a radical departure from today's popular yet mythological belief that if two people stay together in an adaptive productive and moderately mutually enhancing way they will achieve the most a relationship can offer. <BR /><BR />Some issues discussed in the book are the basic ingredients and rudimentary ground rules of postmodern intimacy; how to discover the arena in which one feels most comfortable in expressing intimate feelings; the many ways that sincere efforts to connect can completely misfire; and how to build up defenses dodge self-reproach and retain one's dignity and sense of trust following a serious break-up.