Love for a Lifetime

<p>Every couple for whom marriage is forever unearths nuggets of wisdom along the way. In <i>Love for a Lifetime: Daily Wisdom and Wit for a Long and Happy Marriage </i>columnist Mary Hance shares a wealth of golden tips collected far and wide from young couples just setting out to those whose wedding vows still echo through half a century and more. Here are a few:</p><p><br></p><p></p><ul><li><span>Throw the word </span><span><i>fair</i></span><span> out the window. In one year of a marriage one person may need 99 percent of the love effort or focus of the other; another year </span><span>it may be just the opposite.</span></li><li><span>“What my father always told me when I was planning my wedding: ‘You have to want to have a marriage not just a wedding. Remember the </span><span>difference.' ”</span></li><li><span>“Learn fast that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence!”</span><br></li><li><span>“After several years of marriage there is no way I’m training another </span><span>husband so I will just keep the one I have!”</span></li></ul><p></p>