Relationships Are Everything

Relationships Are Everything: Enhancing Conversations The Change-Talk Way Exciting And Creative Ways To Live More Effectively With Life Challenges. Everywhere In Our Existence... With Our Families Our Health At Work And In Our Communities We Face Countless Unexpected Challenges. Many Of These Come About Suddenly And Without Warning While Others Creep Up On Us Slowly. Some Of These Challenges We Are Able To Move Through With Relative Ease. In The Case Of Others However We Find Ourselves Stuck. None Of Us Are Exempt From Having To Deal With Difficulties And Hurdles. All Of Us Want To Know How To Deal With These More Effectively And Efficiently In Our Ever Changing And Increasingly Complex World. This Book Will Give You Effective Methods For Coping With Challenges So That You May Move Forward As Opposed To Sinking Deeper Into Defeating And Nonproductive Mire. In Other Words Here Is A Book That Will Help You To Live A More Satisfied Life No Matter What Difficulties Are Thrust Upon You. Our Approach Invites People Down An Optimistic And Resilient Path By Turning Tragedy Into Challenge Encouraging Movement Forward And By Appreciating Strengths And Resources. All Of These Are Accomplished Through Collaboration And Conversations With Others. It Is Through Our Relationships That All Things Are Possible.In Reviewing A Variety Of Self Help Books We Noticed That Most Focus On The Individual And Not On Relationships. They Tend To Espouse A Belief That If You Change Yourself And You Put Forth Enough Effort You Can Overcome Any Problem Or Obstacle. Their Emphasis Is On Coping As An Individual Matter. They Tout Ways To Take Care Of Yourself Or To Enhance Your Self-Esteem Which Supposedly Will Lead To More Self Confidence. We Would Like To Challenge This Position Of Valuing The Individual And Singular Effort Over And Above The Value Of What Can Happen When We Connect With Others. If We Use The Rich Resources That Are Created When We Collaborate With Others We Will Most Surely Increase Our Options And Possibilities. We Propose And Support An Alternative Concept To Self-Esteem - Between Esteem Which We Define As Confidence In One'S Relationships. When One Develops Positive Between Esteem The Ability To Effectively Negotiate The Challenges In Life Is Fortified. Most Self-Help Books Start With The Basic Presumption That Individuals Are Flawed And As A Result Something Or Someone Needs To Be Fixed. These Negative Views Are Immensely Limiting And Discouraging. Instead Our Work Is Based Upon The Presumption That In Fact Much Is Right About All Of Us And That When We Work Together With Others We Can Find The Resources For Creating Powerful Changes. For All Those Who Are Tired Of Analyzing Their Deficiencies Worn Out By Revisiting The Past And Never Feeling Hopeful About Dilemmas We Offer The Change-Talk Way As A Long Awaited Antidote.Change-Talk Is Our Way Of Identifying The Vital Practices Of Conversations Leading To Creating Effective Solutions. It Punctuates Talk As An Exchange Of Ideas And Change As The Bringing Forth Of New Possibilities. Change-Talk Stresses Making A Difference Through Conversations With Others. In Our Work We Have Found That Change-Talk Practices Have Been Effective In Helping People To Increase Their Satisfaction And Contentment. Ultimately Once You Have Made The Change-Talk Way Your Way You Will Reap The Benefits Of A More Satisfied Life Filled With Creative Energy And Enthusiasm. Think Of This Book As Your Journey Into A Life Of Expanded Possibilities With Those Around You. We Believe That The Ways In Which We Think About Our Relationships As Well As The Conversations We Choose To Hold Influence Our Successes. With This Way Of Thinking And By Using The Tools In Our Approach You Can Transform Fear And Resistance Into Exhilaration And New Options.We Invite You To Consider Ways To Be More Effective In Your Dealings With Your Challenges Whether They Be With Your Families Your Health At Work Or In Your Social Settings. We Offer You A Thorough Understanding Of Useful Ways For Making Sense Of Your Own Life As Well As Ways For Creating The Changes You Desire. We Explain Five Concepts For Understanding This With The Following: * How Relationships Are The Basic Unit Of Change * The Role Of Words And Stories As The Fabric Of Relationships * How Unexpected Life Events Provide Motivation To Change * Why It Is Important To Stay Open And Curious In The Face Of Challenges * How The Conversations We Hold With Others Create Opportunitieswe Provide You With Unique And Specific Methods To Help You Utilize Your Relationships And Have Them Work More Effectively For You. We Offer You A Tool Chest Of Practical Strategies For Making Your Change Efforts More Productive And Sustainable. Specifically You Will Learn: * How To Have Energizing Conversations * How To Shift The Focus To The Future * How To Use The Power Of Appreciating * How To Enhance Relationships As Resources * How To Invite Others Into Reflecting On Success * How To Co-Create Solutions Through Collaborationtogether We As Authors Have Drawn On Our Forty Plus Years Of Experience Consulting With Countless Individuals Couples Organizations And Groups Who Wanted To Change Their Lives And Find More Satisfaction. We Have Taken The Best Of Our Experiences The Most Effective Techniques And Tools From Our Work As Therapists And Consultants And Have Presented Them In A Practical And Easily Understood Fashion. We Have Distilled The Knowledge We Have Gained Into A User-Friendly Method For Being Absolutely Successful And Satisfied In Using Your Relationships To Deal With Challenges And Change. We Invite You To Reflect On These Ideas And To Enjoy Your Adventure. We Hope That You Will Be Provoked And Stimulated By What You Read Into Generating New Options And Ideas.