Death is not a question of if but a question of how and when.The doctor approaches you and says Your mother is seriously ill and we have to put her on a ventilator to keep her alive. Do you want us to do everything? Your answer is of course Yes I want you to do everything. You think Why is he asking me this question? You assume that by doing everything your mother will be saved. What you may not realize however is that this decision may subject your loved one to a great deal of suffering without