Searching for Mom: A Memoir

Searching for Mom is a disarmingly honest mother-daughter story. Sara Easterly spent a lifetime looking for the perfect mother. As an adoptee she had difficulties attaching to her mother struggled with her faith lived the effects of intergenerational wounding and felt an inherent sense of being unwanted that drove her to perfectionism suicidal ideations and fantasy mothers. When she became a mom her search to find and become the perfect mother intensified ... until her mothers death launched a spiritual epiphany. Saras perspective as an adoptee offers insight for anyone in the adoption constellation. And her hopeful story with themes of belonging family forgiveness and being known are universally relevant to all mothers and daughters.Praise for Searching for Mom: As an adoptive mom four times over Im hungry for the perspective of adult adoptees. Sara Easterlys Searching for Mom is powerfully delivered. Saras vulnerable writing backed up by research and supported by scripture allowed me a valuable glimpse into the secret places in the hearts of my children. --Shannan Martin Author of The Ministry of Ordinary Places and Falling FreeI entered into Sara Easterlys story expecting a riveting narrative--which it is to be sure. What I didnt expect was a story that would speak to me so personally. Searching for Mom is on the surface a memoir about adoption. Beyond that though its also a book about our common quest for wholeness meaning connection belonging and truth. Sara explores these deeply universal themes with unflinching honesty authenticity and vulnerability which means this book will speak straight to your heart and soul--whether you are an adoptee or not. --Michelle DeRusha Author of True You: Letting Go of Your False Self to Uncover the Person God CreatedA touching story of raw daughter-mother attachment with all its imperfections and heartaches together with surprising twists and redemptive forgiveness. It rings true because it is truly delivered. --Gordon Neufeld Ph.D. Founder Neufeld Institute and best-selling author of Hold On to Your KidsFiercely personal Saras memoir exposes the cracks in her formerly sugarcoated adoption story. Sara perseveres in seeking the truth revealing the painful wounds of adoption loss. We follow her journey to healing with both her mothers which unexpectedly culminates in a newfound understanding of Gods mothering. --Haley Radke Creator and host of Adoptees On podcastSara has written a disarmingly honest memoir about pursuing truth--truth about herself her faith her family and even truth about her pursuit of truth. She beautifully conveys that a genuine pursuit of truth becomes the soil in which healing love grows. A worthwhile read from beginning to end. --Richard Dahlstrom Senior Pastor of Bethany Community Church and author of The Map is Not the Journey and The Colors of HopeA beautiful piece of work. Sara speaks the truth in this book and the truth sets people free! --Sundee Frazier Award-winning author of Check All That Apply and the Cleo Edison Oliver seriesSara Easterly has created a fearlessly beautiful story of a daughters search for a kind of perfect love she actually--in the end and much to her own surprise--finds. --Anne Heffron Author of You Dont Look Adopted