The Common Denominator is Unforgiveness: Process to Forgiveness

When you think about forgiving do you associate it with religion? If so you are among the majority of people. Even individuals that do not have a religious affiliation express they associate forgiveness with religion.Approximately 30 years ago research scientist had a flux of groundbreaking discoveries concerning the connection between our mind and body. Studies proved that thoughts affect our emotions and emotions affect our bodies.Heres an example of how your mind can affect your body. Imagine youre at work and you have a disagreement with your co-worker regarding the next step on a large project that is your responsibility. Your co-worker gets very defensive about how he feels and suddenly begins to make comments about you that were not true. You walked out of his office feeling angry hurt and disappointed. Once you were in your office you noticed your heart was beating faster than usual and your breathing had increased. You were starting to get a headache as well. Its clear your feelings of anger and hurt affected your body.Heres another example thats more intense. After working hard one morning your boss decides to give you the afternoon off. You were excited because your spouse works the night shift and you dont get to spend a lot of time together. As you walk in the house you notice some shoes that didnt look familiar. You open the bedroom door and find your spouse in your bed with someone else. How would you feel? Maybe furious hurt outraged shocked etc. you never thought your spouse would do something like that. What type of physical symptoms do you think you may feel? Increased heart rate An increase in your heart rate and breathing light-headed sweaty nauseated just to mention a few symptoms. From the example above Do you believe its important to forgive your spouse? What do you think happens if you do not forgive the person who hurts you? The negative memory is stored in your subconscious mind just like other memories. As time goes by you notice you dont think of the event much youve been staying busy with work and friends. It may appear that time is healing your wounds and at some point it will be forgotten. However this is not what happens. It may be hard for you to believe right now but unforgiveness over time will make you sick. I will explain precisely what happens in your body when you dont forgive that causes you to slowly become ill.When we go through emotional trauma we have the choice to forgive or not to forgive. Are you willing to forgive? Do you know how to forgive? Are you aware of the cost of unforgiveness? You will find the answers to these questions and many more in this book. I hope my journey of forgiveness will inspire you to be forgiving so you can obtain the benefits of living a life of forgiveness.