The Courage to Be in Community: A Call for Compassion Vulnerability and Authenticity

Now enhanced with links to bonus chapter and video. Scientific evidence and personal experience tell us that sincere engaging personal relationships are essential for health and happiness. Yet little is said about how we might actively nurture such relationships for ourselves and for people near us at home and work. Executive Coach Tony Mayo drew on the research of Brené Brown Joseph Campbell and others to compose this enthusiastically received non-sectarian sermon. Originally delivered to the Unitarian Universalist Church in Reston at their Sunday services on January 26 2014 it has now has been revised and expanded for publication. How do we balance the universal human needs of authenticity and acceptance in our personal lives? How might we foster communities where others have the courage to be truly themselves with us? The word courage originally meant to speak and act from the heart or cour in Latin. Courage is required to express our deepest and most authentic selves because we so often fear judgment rejection and exclusion. Comments from People Who Heard the Sermon I so appreciate your wonderful talk yesterday morning. A great reminder for me to continue to take risks in my life and get out of my comfort zone as well as trusting others. It also reminded me of the importance of meditation in my life. -Church Member Your message was loud and clear and magically delivered. Thank you. -Church Member Tony Mayo covers a lot of meaningful ground in a handful of pages - he brings together courage bravery belonging acceptance compassion and more - and backs it up with insights experience AND academic references! I loved it! -Ron Dimon author of EPM Done Right (Wiley CIO Series) I am moved and inspired. It is absolutely great challenging and rich. Plus more adjectives are in me - all superlative Im sure. I must listen to it at least 2 more times; there is a lot to grok here. -Lowell Nerenberg Executive Coach We were inspired by what you shared and how you shared it. Thank you. -Church Member Tony one of the things I valued most about your sermon is that so few words were wasted. You did not speak just to fill the time; each sentence added to the whole. -Church Member Thank you Tony for such a wonderful message this morning. It was so uplifting and based on feedback provided many with a transformational experience. -Church Board member I found your sermon to be rich and meaningful. I agree that you should make it available in print. I would like to revisit it and those who missed it should take a look! -Church Member My life could use more Courage just now and your talk gave me some ideas that could help. -Church Member Tony I have it on good authority that your sermon this last Sunday was about the best ever. Could I get a printed copy? -Email from church member who had been out of town. True courage comes from the heart. I was fortunate enough to hear this sermon in real life and was glad to see that Tony has put it in writing so it will be easy to share. I love his distinction between courage that comes from the heart and bravery (related to bravado) that is put on like armor to conceal weakness. He encouraged us to live authentic lives risking vulnerability as we act from our true selves. I need to revisit what he shared with us on that memorable Sunday! - Laurie Dodd Attorney Its rare that I find something so uplifting and encouraging. I am not a religious person and usually when I hear the word sermon I run. His message is for everyone and stays clear of religious views that might preclude any person or group from understanding and enjoying what he has to share. Tony has a wonderful way with words. I highly recommend reading this book or finding the audio version. - Michael Cohen